Welcome to The Relationship Place. I’m Fiona Lukeis.
I’m a relationship specialist, personal coach, speaker, facilitator and the mother of four beautiful feisty children.
But most of all, I am a passionate advocate of the power of human connection.
Connection is everything. It feeds our soul. It is the vital pumping force at the heart of all we think, do and feel. When we are truly connected, we shine. We are the best possible versions of ourselves we can be.
The Relationship Place is all about human connection. It’s about helping people get back to a place of goodwill and fun with each other, a place of love and light.
I love working with couples and individuals to peel back the layers of misunderstanding and judgment and restore the laughter and the love.
I am constantly amazed and humbled by the magic and power of human relationships. The chemistry and dynamic flow of energy, and the endless ways we connect and communicate, support and guide one another.
Let me support and guide you.
You’re here for a reason.
You’re craving real, lasting passion and intimacy.
You’re searching for hope and meaning through connection.
You want to know there is more to life than this rut you’re stuck in.
I understand where you are right now and I can help you bring back the playful passion to your relationship.
I can help you bring back the magic.
I can help you heal the painful rifts in your relationships.
I can help you to more deeply understand yourself so you can create and sustain the emotionally fulfilling relationships you dream of.
- Do you want to start attracting the right partner?
- Are you feeling stuck in a relationship rut?
- Are you wondering ‘Is this as good as it gets?’
- Are you craving real intimacy from your partner?
- Do you feel like there is something missing in your relationship?
- Do you wish that you and your partner were operating as part of a team?
- Would you love to have the feeling that your partner has your back?
- Do you feel alone and isolated in your marriage?
- Are you feeling disconnected from your partner, like ships passing in the night?
- Do you want to reignite the passion and connection in your relationship but don’t know how?
If your answer is YES to any of these questions, I can help.
What brought me here?
I understand what it’s like to be fearful and at rock bottom, with your sense of self-worth in tatters. I know. I’ve been there. With the support of family, I fled a destructive, damaging relationship with two young children in tow, leaving my home and most of my possessions behind.
Yet there was more upheaval to come. When the Global Financial Crisis hit in 2008, with shockwaves reverberating around the world, I went from earning a comfortable investment income to losing absolutely everything I’d worked so hard for.
I had to stare bankruptcy in the face and start from scratch all over again, all with a new baby who was barely three months old, not to mention three older children to provide for. To say these were stressful times would be a massive understatement.
It was time to reinvent myself again.
I’ll admit there were moments where I wasn’t sure I could do it. I just felt so done. So pummelled.
Yet those pivotal experiences formed the basis of a powerful catalyst for me.
I understood first hand the importance of ‘not settling’, of making a stand for love, not attachment.
I understood the complexity of blended families, and the impact these can have on intimate relationships – often compounded by the financial pressures and busy schedules many of us bear.
But above all, I knew that it was our intimate relationships that are the true saviours in our lives, empowering us to face whatever the universe throws at us. And yet so many people around me were struggling or settling or both.
And it was this, combined with a passionate drive to create something of meaning and purpose, something real, that set me on the path to my own relationship coaching practice.
I embarked on several years intensive study of human behaviour. I avoided the well-trodden path of traditional marriage counselling because I knew with absolute conviction that I wanted to find a different way. I wanted to offer more than what I myself had experienced in marriage counselling so many years ago.
Through all this, I discovered some pretty powerful things about myself and what it means to be human.
+ I learned that the thought of fear is greater than the fear itself.
+ I learned that we are all stronger and more resilient than we ever realised.
+ I learned that happiness is not this external separate thing we must constantly strive to attain.
+ I learned that truly connecting with others, feeling full and content, had absolutely nothing to do with my circumstances.
And I knew without a doubt that this was possible for all of us, regardless of our personal circumstances.
As an International Coach Federation (ICF) accredited, Professional Certified Coach (PCC), and fully accredited Relationship Coach, I initially adhered closely to a background of coaching, Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and E-disk (behavioural profiling). But I had a growing feeling of unease and restlessness. There was something missing. A vital link I couldn’t put my finger on.
I knew there was more to the story. I knew I could help more people in a more profound, lasting way but I felt like I was looking in the wrong direction.
So I listened to my instinct and I went searching.
This searching led me down completely new pathways of study, and I turned my work toward a deeper, more spiritual understanding of what it means to be human.
And what I discovered challenged many of the beliefs I had previously held. I discovered that you could change your relationship without changing you. I discovered that through a different lens, people were able to truly see their partners and reconnect more deeply with each other in a way I had never seen before. I could see that our true nature as human beings was one of joy, peace, insight and wisdom, and recognising this in ourselves and in each other was truly life-changing in a relationship.
I knew this was the missing link I had been searching for.
I took everything I had learned and began to apply this with my clients. I created and launched a brand new program for women. And the results were astonishing. Finally, here was the lasting change I knew was possible.
This is what I was born to do: to show people the power and magic, right at their fingertips, of their own innate wellbeing.
What I Do
Apart from our initial session together, when I work with you as a couple, most of the magic happens during our one-on-one work, where I will help you as an individual unveil moments of clarity and insight that will transform the way you view the world.
These individual sessions are a crucial part of the process because the way you experience the world determines your success in every area of your life, particularly your intimate relationships. I will only bring you together as a couple for a session when you are both feeling empowered and ready to reconnect.
I not only work with couples but singles and individuals as well. In addition to personal one-on-one coaching, my ground-breaking program for women, ‘Time to Shine’, is currently underway, showing women how to effectively disconnect from the burden of overwhelm, anxiety and guilt and tune into their own transformative inner power and wisdom.
My unique approach has enabled hundreds of men and women to thrive in the relationships they dream of and has empowered couples to escape the nightmare of separation and divorce.
If you would like to know more, click here to find out how you can work with me.
What I’m Not
- I felt judged
- I felt like I wasn’t heard
- I felt like what I thought and felt didn’t matter
- I felt like there were no real solutions offered
- I felt like the counsellor failed me
Needless to say, the experience turned me off the whole concept of marriage counselling and I remember thinking, if this all that is out there to help couples in trouble, no wonder so many marriages are failing.
What I do is different.
What I do works.
What I do effects fast, dynamic change every time. I don’t mess around. I have helped literally hundreds of individuals and couples salvage their marriages and relationships and bring them back from the brink of divorce.
If you’re ready for a profound shift in your relationship; if you’re ready to leap forward with your life, with clarity and confidence – email me/click here to find out more. I or a member of my team will be in touch with you shortly.
I can’t wait to meet you and get started.
10 things you didn’t know about me:1 Like many young girls, my first love was a horse. She was a gorgeous wild buckskin mare named Goldie that no one could ride but me. We would flare our nostrils at each other across the paddock at a hundred paces. 2 I was an international exchange student at the age of sixteen and lived with a family in Denmark on the island of Fyn. 3 I dreamed of becoming a professional tennis player but a nasty fall while riding my horse put an abrupt end to my fledgling tennis career. Goldie reared and fell, landing on my arm and breaking it in three places. 4 After my teenage grand slam dreams were dashed, I set my sights on becoming the first female Prime Minister of Australia (yep just nice small goals really). That was until I realised how little integrity there was in politics! 5 At nineteen, I backpacked solo around the world and met the legendary George Lazenby (the Australian James Bond) on a flight from Hawaii to LA. He took me under his wing and chauffeured me around LA on the back of his hot pink Harley Davidson. 6 I was almost abducted while camel riding in the desert near Cairo, Egypt. I fled on foot in the dark and luckily stumbled across a group of travellers who assisted me. (I wisely did not write home to mum about that one!) 7 I have a Bachelor Degree in Public Relations but working in the industry didn’t light me up, I was looking for something more. 8 I am a blue belt in Kyokushin karate. Don’t mess with me 😉 9 I am passionate about beautiful wine and am a trained sommelier. 10 I am a closet ‘Cake Boss’ fan, a TV show on Foxtel. My daughter and I secretly love nothing better than snuggling up in bed together and watching back to back episodes on my iPad.